Saturday, December 16, 2006
my laptop is lagging very badly thanks to my brother..I am so annoyed..
EIGHTY CRITICAL OBJECTS?!?!?! wad. the. fuck. n he spoilt my full-stop key as well..ZZZZZ..I just hate it when ppl dun take care of ur stuff..I know it's not his so he doesn't really care..but I let him use it cos my mom doesn't let him use the desktop..so why can't he just be more responsible..ARGH..on top of tat I've told him repeatedly to be nicer to my lappie..DAYUM LA..wad am I supposed to do???????? it's DYING ALREADY..I can hold a funeral for it already..it's practically screaming out in agony..URGHHHHHHHHH..as much as I love my brother..I just had to rant..sorry boy -_- I'll buy u a nice dinner for tis paragraph..
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n it really pains me to see my close frens upset..I mean..I really wish I could help.. =( I'm so sorry I can't solve ur problems for u..sigh..am I a bad fren? gah..
getting into a relationship is easy..but as usual..they're difficult to maintain..especially when u've been together for quite a while..maybe u've just gotten so used to each other..the spark's not there..but I guess both ppl have to work on it..there's no point when u're the only one trying to hang on..must get him to understand also..
here's just wad I tink..ME..just my opinion ok..
1. Know your needs and speak up for them clearly..a relationship is not a guessing game..if you dun state wad u expect..u end up feeling angry n disappointed with ur partner for not meeting ur needs..closeness cannot occur without honesty..ur partner is not a mind reader!
2. Remember why u both loved each other in the first place..sometimes when u're so frustrated with each other u forget each other's good points..
3. COMPROMISE..dun keep giving in!!! 2 different individuals..learn to respect n manage differences..disagreements dun cause relationships to fail..calling each other names does..dun talk when u're angry @_@ nth comes out the way u want it to..n ppl remember hurtful words..not nice ones..6 months down the road u will still remember smth nasty tat ur partner said to u b4..so THINK b4 speaking..
4. Solve problems as they arise..dun let resentments simmer..dun run away from it..it will snowball into big fat obese problems until u dunno where's the start n where's the end..dun go to sleep angry
5. Listen. With ur ears not ur mouth..dun jump to ur own defense so quickly..look at things from your partner's perspective as well as your own..
6. Work hard at maintaining closeness..closeness doesn't happen by itself..if not..ppl will just drift apart..relationships need regular attention..
7. Apologise..it doesn't kill..
8. Complete dependency on ur partner will drive them to insanity..
9. Dun compare..everyone is different..n a relationship is between TWO ppl..not more..
10. Love is....spontaneous n unconditional..
n of cos..TRUST
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